Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Negative thinking


Artikel ini dijumpai semasa aku dok baca-baca emel yang dah berkurun.. hahaha.. padahal ade la dalam 3 tahun lepas kot.. Masa tu tengah kerja kat satu company X*****, huhu.. ade seorang ni memang suka forward emel motivasi & kelakar kat kitorang. Lepas aku resign dari company tu, terus dah tak dapat emel camni.. erm, untuk peringatan kat diri aku gak..
 
 
Hi Guys,

Something to share with 4 of you. The negative thought should be removed from ourself...if we want to be successful.


1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you can't be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you'll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.

Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn't have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem: We'll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn't even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure — I can't seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you've accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It's an incredibly positive feeling.

5. I'm going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I'm better than him. And there's no way I'll help him succeed — he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can't also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don't let it hold you back. Don't dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.

7. You can't do anything right! Why can't you be like ____ ?

Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we'd be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.

8. Your work sucks. It's super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem: I've actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let's look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It's also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That's a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don't let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I don't think I can do this — I don't have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you don't think you can do something, you probably won't. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for "some other time", you'll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don't need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

Friday, October 19, 2012

Family Treat

 
Salam,
Malam tadi kami bertiga (aku dan mak ayah) berhajat sangat nak makan kat Secret Recipe, Bdr Seri Putra since mak aku teringin nak makan kat situ. Dan juga sempena meraikan kejayaan aku kerana lulus ISTQB exam akhirnya. (ISTQB - International Software Testing Qualification Board). Kira sekarang aku certified tester larhhh..
Mak aku nak order Mee Kari, ayah aku order Grill Chicken with rice (kalau tak silap), aku pulak order menu baru iaitu Crisp Chicken.. Interior kat sini cantik gak la.. ade wallpaper muka-muka yang sungguh ceria sebab dapat makan Secret Recipe kot? Agak lama gak tunggu makanan tu sampai, aku sempat lagi duk update status kat facebook cakap aku kat 'secret recipe' padahal orang pun tak heran kot.. haahhaha.. bosan punya pasal. taktau nak wat ape lagi.. malam tadi ramai gak la famili yang makan situ, termasuk famili aku. tapi kebanyakannya yang ade anak kecik.. rasa macam kat playground pun ade.. semua budak2 tak bole duduk diam, pastu dengan suara bising, dan lari sana-sini.. padahal kedai tu takdelah besar mane pun.. huhu.
Komen aku pasal menu baru tu, crisp chicken.. agak garing di tepi, tapi bahagian tengah tu so-so jer la.. Ade letak mayonise atasnya. pastu budak waitress tu bagi chilli sauce maybe sebab dia tengok aku macam tak caya jer ape yang ade depan mataku.. Kira nak bagi sedap la ayam tu kot.. hahaha
Sekian bebelan ku pagi Jumaat ni. Semoga diberkati
 
Wallpaper & kerusi merah

Ice lemon tea

Gambar lagi cantik dari rupa sebenar..

menu salad

menu baru, chicken crisp

curry mee.. gambar tak clear, sebab mak aku dah lapar dah.hehe

chicken grilled

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Bunga & Buah

Salam..
Bunga & buah ni dah lama patutnya nak post dalam blog ni. Masa bulan lepas ayahku kena operate (gall bladder) So ramai gak la orang bagi hadiah, ex-officemate dia kat Rohde & Schwarz bhd dulu, dia baru berenti tahun lepas..
Sebelum ni dia pencen army officer.. Pastu kakak aku pun bagi gak bunga & buah yang cantik.. Then satu lagi dari Chairman (ke chairwoman ek?) KPJ: Datin Paduka sape tah.. lupa nama.. dia ni duk satu taman dgn kitorang kat Bandar Bukit Mahkota.. ramai datuk datin duk area rumah aku tu.. kebanyakannya dah pencen gak la..
Ade orang singapura pun beli kat situ gak.. hahaha.. Ezani masterchef pun duk area tu.. Satu jalan lagi dengan umah aku. Tapi dia memang bz, takpernah duk lekat kat umah.. Memanjang je ade program. Kena wat appointment dulu kot kalo nak jumpa,even duk satu taman.. hahaha.
Melalut dah aku ni.. Geng surau taman kami pun ade gak datang melawat.. Diorang prihatin gak la.. Ayah aku aktif, main tenis pun yer, pastu AJK Keselamatan kat taman aku.. Kalau ade ape2 kes psl aduan pasal guard kt taman tu, mesti sampai kat bapak aku dulu..
 Kutip duit yuran untuk bagi kat security company, memang kena tebal muka la nak pergi kat semua rumah.. huhuhu.. Tugas kena buatlah, walaupun takde gaji, suka & rela la katakan.. huhu. Nak wat camne.. Demi keselamatan taman.. huhu

Sebelah kiri, datuk Mat Jin, tengah tu taktau sape.. yang belah kanan tu wife dia Datin Sal, geng taichi mak aku, pakai seluar putih

Belah kiri, geng ayah aku..

Belah kiri: inilah ayah Doktor Ezani Masterchef (musim 1); cikgu Monoto, panggil Haji Mono jer.. ceria je orangnya..


Nurse yang sporting dan sabar melayan ayahku.. hehe


Bunga cantik.. semerbak jer bau kat rumah tu..







Shawl style

 
Salam semua.. Tengok Jiji (http://saatakukaupilih.blogspot.com) duk update blog pasal shawl, duk teringat la aku selalu gak wat experimen pakai tudung shawl ni.. Lilit-lilit janji siap.. haaha...
Kadang pakai hentam jer.. Belajar gak kt youtube la, blog orang semua. tapi tak reti gak nak follow sangat. hahahaha..
Abaikan la mukaku yang comot dan penuh dengan parut tu yer.
Kebanyakan tempat aku amik gambar, masa dalam kereta bapakku, yela dah bosan duk dalam kereta lama sangat. Biasa melaram pun time nak g kenduri kawin jer..(tolong jangan muntah tengok muka ku yang banyak giler ni, actually byk lagi dalam simpanan.. ni kira paling elok dah..hahaha.. bluwekkk)
Time g kerja, pakai tudung instant jer.. hahaha.. Takpe. Kalo pasal muka tu, aku dalam proses nak hilangkan bekas parut jerawat ni. Tapi takkan semua automatik jer kan. perlukan masa.. Tunggu yer.. hahaha
 
 


kakak aku.. muka mmg lain. sbb dia ikut muka mak, aku ikut muka ayah kot (ke opah belah ayah)


 















 
 

Yahhoooo.. I'm a certified QA/Tester!!!

Assalamualaikum (sejahtera ke atas kamu).. salam sejahtera.. :)
 
Hari ni adalah hari yang amat bersejarah buatku. Sebab aku dah lulus selepas amik exam buat kali kedua pada 12 october lepas..
Masa amik pertama kali bulan lepas, on 14 Sept 2012, dapat result yang aku fail by 1 mark jer.. patut markah lulus 26/40, tapi aku dapat masa bln lepas 25/40. Bila call MSTB (yang organize exam kt Hotel Istana) tu mintak tlg re-check balik diorang takmo, sebab katanya takleh nak buat, mesin yang check.. Eksen betul orang tu.. hahahaha. Macam tak caya jer salah kurang 1 jer dari markah lulus..
Kali ni, aku dapat ok sikit jer.. 28/40..!! Syukur alhamdulillah...!! hehehe.. Akhirnya, tak perlu lagi nak bersengkang mata dan tido tak lena kerna exam tu.. Pastu Jumaat lepas, tengok ade 3 orang budak batch aku yang sama2 pergi training tu, pun amik repeat sama dgn aku. 2 pompuan 2 laki la (termasuk aku).. Huhuhu...
Masa nk buka attachment kt emel tu, berdebar-debar gak la.. kalah berdebar masa amik result SPM.. macam nak nangis pun ade.. huhu. Sekali bila tengok result pagi tadi, rasa macam nak meloncat pun ade.. Then pergi beli McD drive thru. Sebelum tu, rasa kecut sampai tak pergi breakfast. Bila dapat result, automatik jer terus jadi lapar. Beli set Double Cheese Burger medium sekali dengan sundaue Lime.. abis RM12 gak la kt Mc D tu.. huhu.
Inilah team mate yang sama-sama training kt Grand Season (10-14 sept lepas)

Yang pakai baju putih (berdiri) tu la trainer. Nama dia Ramit Mahotra. Asal dr India. Speaking abis.. hehe
 
Result. dalam pdf.
 

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Manicure untuk pertama kali

Salam ke atas semua rakan blogger sekalian,
 
Semalam hari bersejarah untuk aku. sebab for the first time, aku pegi buat manicure.. Actually saja nak tengok ofismate aku, Suhada, Akmar and Azreen buat manicure n padicure kat Alamanda, Putrajaya.. Then orang kat kedai tu berjaya mempengaruhi aku (x ngaku gak, memang senang terpengaruh, n mencuba benda baru actually)..
Last2 aku buat gak la.. RM45 untuk manicure sekali dengan shining nya.. entah aku lupa ape nama tah.. Mula2 tu ngilu gak la masa dia kikis kutikel.. Potong kuku, pastu sambil borak2.. Peramah gak la budak yang buatkan manicure tu. hahaha.. Maybe bulan depan aku nak pergi lagi.. Dia kata kalau nak tahan lama, takleh kena air. means kena makan pakai sudu garfu la pas ni.. Pastu mandi kena bungkus tangan dengan plastik/glove.. hahahah...
Then pergi lak teman Akma pergi cari kasut.. Mula-mula masuk kedai Bata, tapi takde yang sesuai.. size n trend tak mengikut citarasa dia.. so, pergi lak kedai Nose.. pun takde gak yang berkenan.. lepas tu, aku pun ajak pergi Primavera sebab aku pun suka gak dengan brand ni.. kasut dia walaupun agak mahal, tapi berkuali.. sedap pakai, tahan lama.. trend pun ok la.. Sekali dengan aku beli kasut.. then nampak lak satu handbag ni, walaupun dibuat daripada PVC (aku prefer leather sebenarnya) tapi design ngan color dia menarik.. lepas pikir2 10 kali.. rasanya tak salah kot aku menambahkan koleksi handbag ngan kasut yang dah berlambak kat umah tu.. Bak kata ayah aku, ade kasut yang tak pakai pun ade.. Lebih dari 10 pasang kot.. Tapi design kasut camtu aku tak pernah ade lagi dalam koleksi.. Still in denial lagi tu.. hahaha
Balik dengan perasaan happy campur takut gak kena marah dengan parent.. hahaha. belasah jer... Bukan boleh pulangkan balik kan.. Hari ni aku dah rasmikan handbag.. Tapi kasut still tak pakai lagi.. Tengoklah pergi kenduri ke jalan-jalan ke baru pakai.. Heheheh.. Kadang rasa macam membazir.. tapi pikir2 maybe nanti ade gak gunanya.. hahaha.. Nak sedapkan rasa..
Inilah handbag yang beli kat Primavera tu.. murah jer.

tegakkan.. kira sesuai untuk bawak pergi kerja

Kiri: akma, sebelah kanan Suhada

Sue nak show off jari dia masa manicure. Akma baru lepas buat padicure.

Menahan geli n ngilu kena kikis kutikel

Candid la ni.. hahaha

Harga-harga utk servis yang disediakan kat Nail Parlour

Sambil manicure, sambil borak.

Siap dah sanitised.. Memang menjaga kebersihan la

Produk yang dijual

Bubuh lotion lepas habis

Tengah korek ke ape tah tu.. huhu
Oklah sekian bebelan ku di pagi hari..