Erti Cinta & Perkahwinan

Suatu pagi yang dingin, terjadilah satu perbualan antara seorang guru falsafah dan pelajarnya.. .

pelajar: guru, apakah erti cinta..? bagaimanakah saya boleh mendapatkannya. ..?

guru: ada sebuah ladang gandum yang luas didepan sana ,berjalanlah kamudan jangan sesekali kamu berundur. kemudian ambillah satu ranting. sek ira nyakamu mendapati ranting tersebut sangat menakjubkan, ertinya kamu telahmenemui cinta.

pelajar tersebut pun berjalan dan tidak berapa lama dia kembali dengan tangan yang kosong.

guru bertanya: mengapa kamu tidak membawa sebatang ranting pun...?

pelajar menjawab: saya hanya terpaksa memilih satu ranting saja, dan sewaktu berjalan saya tidak boleh mengundur kebelakang semula. sebenarnya saya telah berjumpa dengan satu ranting yang paling menakjubkan tapi saya tak tahu apakah yang akan menakjubkan di hadapan sana nanti, maka saya biarkan ranting itu lalu saya dapati tidak ada lagi ranting yang paling menakjubkan selain daripada yang saya lihat tadi. jadi saya tidak mengambil sebatang pun akhirnya.

gurunya menjawab: ye, itu lah cinta...

dihari lainnya pula pelajar tersebut bertanya kepada gurunya, apa itu perkahwinan. ..?

guru: ada hutan yang subur didepan sana . berjalanlah kamu.tapi janganlah kamu sesekali mengundur kebelakang. tebanglah sepohon pokoksaja. dan tebanglah jika kamu merasakan bahawa pohon tersebut adalah yangpaling cantik,segar dan tinggi, kerana kamu telah menemukan apa itu perkahwinan.

pelajar tersebut pun berjalan, dan tidak berapa lama, dia datang semula dengan membawa sepohon kayu, walaupun pohon tersebut tidaklah berapa segar, cantik dan tinggi pada pandangan guru tersebut.

maka gurunya pun bertanya: mengapa kamu memotong pohon seperti ini....?

pelajar itu menjawab: sebab, berdasarkan pengalaman ku sebelum ini, aku hanya berjalan separuh daripada hutan tersebut dan aku takut akan kembali dengan tangan kosong. jadi saya mengambil kesempatan menebang pohon ini lalu dibawa kesini. pada pandangan saya ianya adalah pohon yang terbaik buat saya. saya tidak mahu kehilangannya atau menyesal kerana tidak memilihnya.. .

maka guru itu menjawab: itulah perkahwinan. ......

tamat....


Kesimpulannya, usahlah terlalu memilih cinta, ditakuti anda akan terlepasnya, dan janganlah terlalu memilih jodoh, terimalah pasangan anda dengan seadanya. Tidak ada manusia yang sempurna di dunia ini. Setiap insan pasti ada kelebihan dan kekurangannya .

5 Things Single Women Hate To Hear

Every time she hung out with her single female friends, the same gripes surfaced. Enough already with the how-to-snag-a-guy advice streaming from anyone and everyone as soon as status single was announced, they said.

Suddenly, Karin Anderson, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at Concordia University Chicago, found herself keeping track of what these single women were saying, replacing the strict academic research techniques she was used to with more informal polling.
What she found was a deluge of well-meaning advice being issued to singles that, while offered with the best of intentions, not only wasn't working but was making singles' skin crawl.
"The message to singles tends to be that they're doing something wrong, 'You're too this' or 'You're not enough that.' Being single is treated as this problem that needs to be solved," says Anderson. "That's really bogus. We should be telling single women, 'You're fine. There's nothing wrong. Enjoy your life.'"
These five snippets of well-meaning advice to singles top Anderson's list of worst offenses. Here's why.

1) What's Said: MAYBE YOU'RE NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH.
What's Heard: "This can come off sounding like you're passing judgment on effort," says Anderson. "It's better to encourage a single person to explore new relationships to the extent they are comfortable and to extend themselves in ways that feel natural and not forced."

2) What's Said: WEAR MORE MAKEUP
What's Heard: More than implying that the search for Mr. Right is as easy as brushing a spot of color onto the cheeks, this comment offends further by actually attacking a person's core identity. "A woman presents herself according to what she defines as meaningful. Whether her style is glamorous belle or au naturelle, every woman should be allowed to be herself. There's a man out there who is going to be attracted to her style, whatever it is. If she's presenting herself as anyone other than who she really is, that's false advertising and that's going to backfire." 

3) What's Said: GET BACK OUT THERE!
What's Heard: This can send the signal that the single person is simply not doing enough speed or Internet or blind dating, or worse, that she isn't living a full enough life. "Singles are not by definition hiding out in their closets curled up in the fetal position all day," says Anderson. "Most are likely working, meeting friends out for dinner and events, working out."

4) What's Said: YOU'RE TOO PICKY.
What's Heard: This implies that at some point, a point that the single friend or loved one has reached, she is no longer allowed to be discriminating, says Anderson. "This sends single women the message that their time to be choosy is up, that it's now time to go out and pick up any chump."

Note: ni komen yang aku selalu dapat la.. no 4 tu.. huhuhu

 
5) What's Said: TONE IT DOWN A NOTCH.
What's Heard: You ask too many questions. You're too intimidating. You're overly opinionated. You're too consumed with work. "This is interpreted by single women to mean that they have to dial down their core identity a notch in order to attract potential suitors and make them feel comfortable," says Anderson. "Suggesting that a woman reduce the fullness of who she is to lure a mate will lead to an inauthentic connection, and is a recipe for a disastrous relationship or marriage. Because really, how long can any person fake it and maintain a facade?"

10 Beauty Mistakes That Add 10 Years

P/S: sumber copy paste dari website (tak ingat dan tak copy link)..

Top makeup artists on what not to do if you want younger-looking skin—and the tricks that really work

By Lindsy Van Gelder, Allure

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1. Base that's too light

Foundation that's paler than your natural skin tone exaggerates fine lines. "Even if you have ivory skin, you need to go a little bit warmer as you get older," says Linter. Switch to a hue that's one or two shades darker and has luminescent particles, such as Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk: "A light-reflective formula makes the skin look like it's glowing," says Davis.

2. Thick foundation

"Heavy makeup is a one-way ticket to looking older than you actually are," says makeup artist Chrisanne Davis. Choose a sheer foundation or tinted moisturizer (such as Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer SPF 20), and after you apply it, press a damp makeup sponge into areas where you have wrinkles to soak up any excess. While the less-is-more maxim may seem counterintuitive, "the more skin you can see, the better," says makeup artist Sandy Linter. "As long as it is well-hydrated, fresh skin looks much more youthful than an obviously covered complexion."

3. Blush on the apples of the cheeks

It draws attention to sagging skin. Instead, apply color on the highest point on your cheekbones, not too close to the nose, and lift it upward with a brush that's large enough to cover the whole cheekbone. Skip the drama queen shades, too: "Colors like wine and cinnamon will only make you look gaunt if you're thin and clownish if you're not," says Linter. "A neutral rose color flatters all skin tones and really brightens things up." (We like Nars Blush in Mata Hari.)

4. Face powder on top of lines

Powder is fine for reducing shine on the nose and the chin, but on other parts of the face it exaggerates wrinkles and can make skin look too dry, says Linter. The only time Linter dusts powder on clients over 40 is when she knows they're being professionally photographed (a loose translucent formula does help cut glare), but even then, one unbreakable rule still applies: Avoid the eye area completely.

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5. Major lipstick

Bright colors, dark shades, and anything metallic or iridescent are too heavy for thinning lips. Instead, choose a neutral rose shade. And consider switching from a lipstick to a sheer gloss — it will give you more fullness.

6. Lipstick that migrates

Your natural lip line can begin to fade as you age, which makes lipstick more prone to bleeding and feathering. "Tracing it with one of the new clear lip liners can help the color stay put," Davis says. (Mally Beauty Lip Fence does the trick.)

7. Eyeliner on the lower lashes

All that does is make your eyes look smaller and draw attention to dark circles. Stick to the upper lids-and make the line thicker toward the outer corners, where eyes have a tendency to droop as we age. (Try Elizabeth Arden Smoky Eyes Powder Pencil.)

8. Mascara on the lower lashes

It highlights crow's-feet. And dark circles. And it just generally looks bad. Coat your top lashes with the blackest black mascara you can find-"it will make the whites of your eyes look clearer and whiter," Linter says. It's also best to avoid superthick formulas that don't separate easily. Lashes get dryer as we age, making mascara more likely to clump and fall onto your face. (Try Cover Girl LashExact Mascara or Lancôme High Définicils High Definition Mascara.) And don't forget your curler. "Curling your lashes is the easiest thing you can do to make your eyes look bigger-and therefore younger," says Davis. (We love the Shu Uemura Eyelash Curler.)

9. Sparkly shadow on the outer corners

A little shimmer is flattering and keeps eye makeup from looking too stark, but at the outer corners, it magnifies every fine line. Restrict sparkle and shimmer to the inner corners, the centers of the lids, and just on the brow bones.

10. Heavy concealer on dark circles

The skin under the eyes gets thinner as we age, making thick cover-up look like concrete. Keep it light (we like Lancôme Effacernes Waterproof Protective Undereye Concealer), and apply it with a brush. "The brush distributes the color more evenly," says Linter. And put it only on dark areas, not under the entire eye.

6 Reasons You Hate Your Job ... and What You Can Do About It

By Anthony Balderrama, CareerBuilder.com writer

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Hate is a strong word. We often say we hate something when we really just don't like it. On the surface, the two attitudes might sound interchangeable, but they are different. Hate is venomous and suggests a displeasure that looms over your daily life. Disliking something isn't typically that upsetting. For example, you might not like cheddar cheese, but the thought probably doesn't keep you up at night. Does it?

When people discuss their jobs, hate is a common bond for them. They hate their jobs or the people with whom they work. Or so they say. If you catch yourself griping about your job, stop and ask yourself if you really hate the job or if you're annoyed with it and can do something to change it.

Here are six common reasons people claim to hate their jobs and some possible solutions to the situations.

I hate my job because ...

... I'm too [brilliant, experienced, innovative] to be here.

What it could mean: You should've moved on a long time ago.

What you can do about it: First off, congratulations on being awesome. Now, if you are capable of holding a job that is more challenging or has more responsibility, don't stop looking for it. In the meantime, put forth your best effort where you are now because you still need recommendations and you need to not get fired. Volunteer for new assignments or try out new tasks so that you can add new skills to your résumé. Plus, your time at the company will pass more quickly if you've broken out of the routine.

... No one values me.

What it could mean: Your employer and colleagues are taking advantage of you.

What you can do about it: If your talents, efforts and time are taken for granted, you deserve a change. Walking into the boss's office and saying, "You don't appreciate me," is not easy. If you have an opportunity to talk one-on-one with your boss, whether in a performance review or a scheduled discussion, explain that you're worried you won't ever advance in the company despite your achievements, and then give examples of your contributions. When you frame the issue as a professional concern and also illustrate how the company relies on you, the topic is more about improving business and less about you whining. No one hands out raises and promotions because they think it's time. Employers respond to results, not a calendar.

... I don't earn enough money.

What it could mean: You can't wait around for someone to give you a raise.

What you can do about it: First off, it's safe to say most people think they don't earn enough money, so simply complaining to your boss that you want more cash won't work. But if you look at your W-2 and wonder why the number isn't bigger, start researching. Check the Bureau of Labor Statistics or CBSalary.com to find out what other professionals who share your experience, job title and location earn. If the number is low, bring it up at the appropriate time with your supervisor. Hopefully you can negotiate more, but realize that some companies don't have wiggle room in their budgets and bosses can't always give you a raise, even if you deserve it. Use your newfound knowledge of your peers' earnings to find a new job with competitive pay.

... I don't care about it.

What it could mean: You've given up.

What you can do about it: Did you ever care about it? If you took this job to get a paycheck and kill time until something better came along, then you probably never will love it. But if you took the job because it offered you something -- a chance to use your talents, learn something new, interact with people -- then maybe you just need to remind yourself what it offers you. Will other positions at the company or elsewhere fulfill you in a way this one does not? If you know that other opportunities are better fits for you, start looking. If you become comfortable being bored, your work will suffer, your employer won't be happy and you'll be wasting each other's time.

... I hate my boss.

What it could mean: You both need to meet in the middle.

What you can do about it: Dealing with a boss comes down to knowing what you can change and knowing what is permanent. For example, a micromanager might be receptive to your need for more freedom if you sit down and have a conversation about it. But you can't expect someone to undergo a complete personality change just to please you. Instead, realize that some managers will listen to you and try to create a better work environment. Others can't change their styles any more than you can change yours; therefore you need to assess what compromises you can make. If a happy medium exists, make the most of it. If your boss will never coalesce with your style, you need to either accept the fact or start looking for another job. Of course, if your boss is truly the problem and others agree, you can address the situation either with him or her, a supervisor or the human resources department in order to have your concerns heard.

... I hate my colleagues.

What it could mean: The culture no longer suits your personality.

What you can do about it: Not getting along with co-workers is similar to problems with a boss in that you can try to change them, and you should be willing to give in a little, too. Sometimes a simple conversation can clear up tension, but other times differences are irreconcilable. If you otherwise love your job, you can try to remove yourself from co-worker situations that cause you stress. Perhaps you've evolved and traits you once enjoyed in others are now annoying. Accept the fact that you could be the reason you no longer get along with your colleagues and decide where to go from there.